Friday, July 22, 2016

Leadership Lessons - Do What You are Afraid of.


From James Dodwell - Hammers of Hope
Good Morning,
Do what you are afraid of doing. Words to stretch and grow by and I am a believer. Over the past several days I have climbed out of my box to do several things I have never done. Why? Not sure but it just seemed to be what I was supposed to do at the time. All the fear, worry and excuses were eliminated the instant I decided to step forward and walk through the doors of fear into something new and exciting. In the beginning I was uncomfortable, a little insecure and even felt a little worthless but as I moved into this unknown territory I began to feel freedom from the fear and a realization there was something better awaiting me if only I could push all those negative feelings aside.

I didn’t leap tall buildings, or stop a locomotive nor was I faster than a speeding bullet however it was something nagging at me from within, very simple, very much in my thoughts for too long and I needed resolution.  I made the leap, not perfect, skinned my knees and elbows a little, but stayed focused and achieved a dream. This is the way it is when trying something new for the first time, starting a new job, meeting new people, speaking in public, and so on and so forth. We have to put our fears aside, move forward, test the waters, then go for it, if not how else will we know? We won’t. As I pondered this I recalled a story:

The sympathetic and inquisitive old lady at the seashore was delighted and thrilled by an old sailor's narrative of how he was washed overboard during a gale and was only rescued after having sunk for the third time. "And, of course," she commented brightly, "after you sank the third time, your whole past life passed before your eyes." "I presume that it did, mum," the sailor agreed. "But bein' as I had my eyes shut, I missed it."

This is so “life like”. There have been many missed opportunities during my life because I had my eyes closed out of fear or just the fact I didn’t want to make a change. However, life is like water it seeks it on level and sometimes you can’t hold back the change; you have to go with the flow. It’s not always a bad thing either, in fact most of the time it is needed to help us stretch and grow and reach our potential.  I read once that when you stretch yourself, you grow, and life’s rewards are attained through this growth. A life of growth will bring you never ending fulfillment. This is so true.

As leaders in our homes, careers, communities, and places of worship, we need to be the ones helping to replace the fear others experience by equipping them through our life example. To make this point, if we wish to equip others; we must give them certain gifts. First, we must CARE for them through Communication, Affirmation, Recognition and Example. We must encourage others to work on their weaknesses, but work out and lean into their strengths. We must be willing to provide them with our time, energy and focus to help them develop their strengths and at the same time give them ownership of the ministry.

We as leaders become a resource, a person to maintain a positive atmosphere, provide avenues of training, show support and provide the tools when needed. We must make our expectations clear, help to set goals, teaching and remaining teachable. We as leader hold the responsibility to eliminate unnecessary burdens and when we catch them doing something good, reward them.  I recall the missed opportunity in my life was during my early years when I was stubborn and knew everything.

There were good leaders/mentors around me each day but I did not heed their instruction or advice. It was years down the road when I actually took a hard fall that the words of a mentor/leader friend helped to lift me and get me back on path. He quoted Paul from the Book of Ephesians, he said, “See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”

Therefore, I encourage us as I was encouraged to analyze our lifestyles, utilize the present and prioritize what is important. Every one of us as leaders, every day, gets the same amount of time, but not every leader gets the same results. We have to be open to change and be willing to rid ourselves of fear. It will make a difference and be valued added to our lives and the lives of others. Ephesians 5:15-17

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